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Well the most simple way is to just say what u feel
the tricky is bit is trying to feel what u say
and then trying to get feelings into words ... OMG shut up woman !!! heheh
I have some serious dificulties with that as u may have noticed .. but i try

:love:

Marwin wrote:
.........AND I WILL SAY HER SOMETHING BEATIUFULL



Marwin

This beautifull words what i wanted to say her everytime are simple and tiny, but never in a letter, yes i wrote her a love letter, and there is a truth in that only she and i know. I wanted allways say that to HER!

I love you..........so much
nothing more nothing few!


Beleave me Carnage its not such a classical situation, it cames out in the other love topic. You will see its a bit crazy because its a forbidden love, at the moment when the arrow gore my heart, and beleave me the arrowhead was sharp.



I think i lost her again, but the feelings are true from me.

How can somebody evidence his love?

What do you think?






Marwin

Well i would like to point back at my previous message :d

}TCP{Carnage wrote:Well the most simple way is to just say what u feel
the tricky is bit is trying to feel what u say
and then trying to get feelings into words ... OMG shut up woman !!! heheh
I have some serious dificulties with that as u may have noticed .. but i try

And i think u mean Prove their love
Hmmz tricky thing .. in my opinion it is either there or it is not
Of course u can do things that will make the other person happy .. but is that proof of your love for them .. not to sound like a dick but i have done that many times just to get me some i did not love them i just wanted them.
i think love is something u get back from a person and the way they make u feel when they do that.
i have loved people that did not love me back .. it happens and there is not much u can do about it other then just carry on with ya life untill u run into someone else u might have feelings for

As we are on the subject i might have some news soon

Carnage wrote..............

As we are on the subject i might have some news soon

Not fair to say something like this and leave me hanging????????????

I see her every day and the way she looks at me is the way I want to be loved. I talk to her like a normal person, but deep down inside I want to hold and cherish her to the end of all days. But the feeling is so deep that I cant control myself to act in a perfect and meaningful way. All I want to do is tell her how I feel. But the nerves kick in. The feeling is to strong, I love her.
Does she love me, I don't know. How can reality and such loss of control take place at the same time. She is the person of my perfect world, doe's she know she's the one for me or is it just me losing self control. I wonder in my sleep I wonder in my dream's. The fact is we will never be together she has been and always will be better than me.
I've felt so strongly about lots of girls, I wonder why.
Is this the way some people should live their lives or is it just the wrong path we choose to take.
The pain and anger that being with another person brings is great but so true. We want to be forever.
<3

Think I've posted in the wrong place.

Falling in love always is the first things that happens. But the feelings you have are not love, it's rather rhapsody. From my experience, love is something that develops over the years. I'm in a relationship for 15 years now and during this time, our trust, respect, friendship and emotional binding has ever improved, which I thought would be impossible after the first impact when I actually fell in love with her. The main key about it probably is the trust. And I mean not the will to trust someone, but the absolute certainty that you can trust the other in every situation. To know that he or she will always be on your side, regardless what happens. To me, true love is deep friendship and romance at the same time.

}TCP{Coco wrote:The main key about it probably is the trust. And I mean not the will to trust someone, but the absolute certainty that you can trust the other in every situation. To know that he or she will always be on your side, regardless what happens. To me, true love is deep friendship and romance at the same time.

Thats nothing new for me Coco. I know how importatnt trust is, and i hope she can give me only a tiny bit of that trust that i have to her.

}TCP{Coco wrote:Falling in love always is the first things that happens. From my experience, love is something that develops over the years.

Contradiction in terms what now, the first thing or over years, or with other words what is the different between "Falling in" and "Love"?
And i know even this answer.

}TCP{Coco wrote:But the feelings you have are not love, it's rather rhapsody.

Hard judgement for that u know nothing of my story, this topic tell nothing about the whole situation. It starts with the first eye contact, and if i am honest i was the first who looked away from this first contact because my knee became softly.

}TCP{Coco wrote: I'm in a relationship for 15 years now and during this time, our trust, respect, friendship and emotional binding has ever improved, which I thought would be impossible after the first impact when I actually fell in love with her.

I am sorry that my "rhapsody" startet last year in November, or that i havent such a 15 year love story.........


Damn, i am the stupid, as usual!


Marwin

I forgot the respect.

I try to give her the time she need.
I try to be not importunate.
I try to set her not under pressure with my illness, that means if it went rly bad and i can see her one last time, then it would fill me up happy.

Is that enough respect, i mean what should i do?
What is to few, and what is too much?


Sorry Coco for the last post, i know what this feelings mean to me, but there will be allways anybody who want not beleave.


All will be good now and then!


Marwin

Marwin wrote:Contradiction in terms what now, the first thing or over years, or with other words what is the different between "Falling in" and "Love"?

With "falling in love" I mean what the German word "Verliebtsein" describes.

Marwin wrote:Hard judgement for that u know nothing of my story, this topic tell nothing about the whole situation.

Once again, a misunderstanding here. "You" wasn't supposed to be you in person, but the general "you", which means "man" in German.

Marwin wrote:I am sorry that my "rhapsody" startet last year in November, or that i havent such a 15 year love story.........

Damn, i am the stupid, as usual!

I don't see why you should be stupid because of that. All I'm telling you is that from my personal experience love needs time to develop. You (the general "you") can't change from "no love" to love within a few weeks or months, because it is the result of interaction and understanding and requires to learn about all the facets of the other person... and accept them, even those you don't like!

To be honest, it's quite easy to fall in love. It happens more or less frequently that you see somebody and immediately like him/her and develop feelings towards that person. But as quickly as it can happen, it can also be over again. I've had this numerous times in my life and I guess the same goes for most people out there.

Of course it is of major importance to you during that time. People tend to act unnormal in various ways. There's always the will to make the first move and the fear of rejection, which lets you hesitate - often way too long. I know of people who secretly love another person for years without letting them know. Honestly, this is just self-punishment. You'll never get happy with this. And the situation won't improve either - there will never be the perfect moment when she suddenly realises by herself what you feel and all of a sudden starts loving you too (exceptions confirm the rule ).

But hey, who am I to tell you? Arguments and advice are rarely good when it comes to love. Everybody must make their own experiences - with uncertain ending. I cincerely hope that yours will be successful, mate.

Maybe this one advice will make some sense for you (if not, simply ignore it): Try to be yourself when being with her. There's absolutely no sense in playing a particular role which (in your eyes) would make you more interesting for her. The reason is simple: If you succeed, she'll get to know you like are anyway (sooner or later). And if she doesn't like or accept how you are for real, the relationship won't work. Therefore, being yourself from the beginning is an important prerequisite.

Marwin wrote:I forgot the respect.

I try to give her the time she need.
I try to be not importunate.
I try to set her not under pressure with my illness, that means if it went rly bad and i can see her one last time, then it would fill me up happy.

Is that enough respect, i mean what should i do?
What is to few, and what is too much?

This is good already, but as said previously: It may happen that this goes on forever.

My advice would be:
- Try to be yourself.
- Try to spend time with her - little at first, ever more over the time.
- Try to have fun with her and talk about personal matters too (maybe nothing too frustrative, better try to be positive and make her happy).
- When it gets really personal, tell her that you like her and that she makes you feel good when she's around. This will deliver the clue (in case she didn't realise it herself already) while still leaving open the possibility to ignore it politely. This could avoid an uncomfortable situation and possible negative consequences in case she's not interested (like she doesn't want to see you anymore).

This generally is way better than setting everything on one card and force a situation where she can just say "yes" or "no". Of course it's just my advice, but I've tried to learn from some mistakes I made in the past, so it might be better than nothing.

Marwin wrote:Sorry Coco for the last post, i know what this feelings mean to me, but there will be allways anybody who want not beleave.

It's alright, I know what emotional stress this can cause. I just hope it'll work out for you.

Love is a bitch... All I have to say. =)

Thanks Coco for your explanatory notes!

I know that there is a different between "falling in love" (verliebt sein) and "love", and i know how long it takes to get over this feelings.........
.....this could mean in my case till my life ends.


She know what feelings i have to her, so i dont waited too long.


Maybe is this situation so sensitive that nobody of us both have the heart to do something.........or with other words maybe its simply to early, so hard that sounds for me, but maybe true (Sorry for that often maybe word but i cant be absolute sure).


I simply miss her.




Marwin


......and Tronec is right!